彼と彼女の共通項。

it is very difficult to say it...."relationship".
'cause, everybody has own feelings.
no , the relationship is only between a girl and a boy.
they involve so much , family, friends, of course a boy/girlfriend,and coworkers for example.

After the party, I said to good-bye to my friend. who couldnt attend the party in time.
I thought that maybe she and their friend would start the dinner
(so she didnt have anything.)
I was caring. I've met with her only a day.
but it was very impolite thing..
My friends told me "You dont like her??"

of course, I've never felt such a thing.

yes,that was just a joking , however, it is no wonder my friends 'joke..

After then , we go to dinner together.
much wine at the party made so more grooving!!


i think ....my boss in here isn't liked everyone .
she is a workaholic...typically in JAPANESE. (I am not !! (=bad Japanese!??))
so she doesn't connect with members in lab. and only work hard on her own.
no help she wants.

it is great. i think...
but the relationship between the members in the lab
it is very important thing , i believe.

her ability gives so many chances in science.in her life.
she got the grants and works and so on....


but it is successful????



if the paper is accepted in the famous, prestigious, impactful ones
it is the study for people all over the world??



while the dinner , members talk about her.
they can't understand why she works so hard.

it is no problem only to work hard, i think...

but it has problems not to spend with co-workers if you dont need it.



she thinks , maybe , "why i am isolated ??"
but the reason was made .......she made it.



now i stay in Italy , not Japan.
the everystyle is very differnt from that..i know .
and i am the stranger from the members in this institute.
so i tried to make a friendship with them and to be given the trust to me , a GIAPPONE foreigner.


I was really glad to heat it !!↓
"She(the other staff) said you(=it's me) are nice,


the next is the problem.
"but she doesn't want to talk with him(=my friend from JPN)"



the problem ...is the poor language.
of course , i also speak poor English. very very broken English (like this blog )
but something is not the same between he and me.



I know the reason.


My friend (=another student) is not aggressive so much.
he is waiting for someone's giving a talk.


it depends on the charactoristics. i think
but we can change it on my own .
dont you think so??


i know it is not easily to change our mind , i know
if he couldnt do it successfully , when he tried to hard , that would reach to everyone.


i found and heard that someone talked such a thing about him...
so
I want him to try more .
no, no, I didnt want to make a complaints to him.
I want to cheer him, yes sure.


He will not change his mind if I would suggest it.
he would feel some stress if I would do such a thing...


I wish he would take next to step to grow himself..without my saying.....


he is my friend . too!!




I want BREAK their JAPANESE image !!


I do , si I will .
by irur-sep16 | 2006-10-05 09:18 | ひとりごと
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